Remedy a Tense Situation After a Fight

In a normal and healthy relationship, have you had a fight with your partner? Do you often experience problems in your relationship due to such fights? Fights and disagreements are normal in a healthy relationship and you really shouldn’t worry too much about them. Most couples figure out a way to make up and eliminate the issues in a good way.

When a couple has a fight on some issue, it creates a difficult situation for both partners. All healthy and strong relationships need to identify the situation and to figure out some ways to fix such tense situations. Here are some good ways to Remedy a Tense Situation After a Fight with your partner and heal the tense situation created because of such disagreements.

Spend Some Alone Time

After you have had a fight with your spouse or partner, it is very important to move apart from your partner for some time and use that alone time wisely. Use that alone time to calm-down and nurture yourself and then think what was the reason behind the fight. You can do this by going for a long drive, going for a walk or by spending some time in the garden or at the beach.

You should indulge yourself in such activities that make you feel calm and relaxed. Unless you have calmed down, you cannot logically think about the causes of the fight and where did you or your spouse make a mistake. Try to recall all of the issues and figure out the exact cause of the fight. Also, think about what led up to you having a fight. Is this a pattern that you go through whenever you start really getting close to your partner? Is it a sabotage pattern that you go through just prior to experiencing some true happiness in your relationship? Or were you tired, or due for your period, or overworked and lacking in the right nutrients to feel vital and alive?

Once you identify the main causes of the fight, you’ll be better able to heal the situation created by the fight. Identifying the cause will be helpful to remedy the situation and to avoid future fights with your spouse/partner. If you can’t avoid the fights, then you’ll learn to avoid your usual reaction while disagreeing. This in turn will eventually mean that the fighting on that particular issue will cease.

Be Ready to Forgive

Forgiveness is an important element for a successful marriage or relationship. As human beings, we all make mistakes; sometimes those mistakes are small and sometimes they are large. No doubt, forgiveness is essential for the success of all relationships. However, sometimes it might not be easy to forgive someone.

The first point towards forgiveness is that you should allow the guilt that you might be feeling to release. If you have been together for quite a while, try to recall your first meeting and the sweet moments that you had with your partner/spouse. Recalling the past and great memories about your relationship will make you feel better. It will make it easier for you to forgive your partner regardless of the nature and intensity of the mistake.

Always remember that your relationship is more important than the fights and conflicts, so always focus to move your relationship forward. Moreover, you can listen to your favourite music and watch romantic movies to capture the loving feelings that you had for your partner back again.

Apologise

Apologising is a good idea, but the overused phrase ‘I am sorry’ might not fit in every circumstance. It can be good for mild disagreements, but may not be a good fit for major blowouts. Do not always think about who made the mistake.

To show your affection and remedy the tense situation after the fight, you should be the first to apologise even when you have not made a mistake at all. It will show your spouse or partner how loving and caring you are and how much you care about the relationship. You should not always be waiting for your partner to apologise first, instead, be first and surprise your partner. If both partners will be waiting for each other to apologise, it will make the situation worse.

Apologising is not just about saying ‘I am sorry’. Sometimes you can do that by taking your partner shopping, or for dinner, or to the cinema and to their favourite other place. It’s about showing him or her that you care for them and that you value what the two of you have together, enough to make the effort to fix things.

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