How to Raise Your Popularity
This month’s articles are written for teens, and today’s article gives tips on How to Raise Your Popularity. Most teenagers would like to be popular if they could. But many are baffled as to just what it takes to achieve popularity, or even to get a date. Knowing what is generally considered attractive to the opposite sex helps. Also understanding what boys expect of girls and what girls expect of boys in a given community is especially important.
In general young people like members of the opposite sex who are (1) careful of their personal appearance; (2) courteous and thoughtful; and (3) fun to be with.
A girl doesn’t have to be a beauty to get a date. She just has to dress appropriately, be neat and well groomed, and then try to forget her appearance. The same goes for a guy. If he’s clean and neat (hair combed, fresh shirt, nails clean) he’s acceptable, and probably attractive to someone who likes his kind of look.
Courtesy
Courtesy is mentioned frequently by both guys and girls as a desirable quality in a date. Actually, being courteous is just being thoughtful of others; it’s easy to get into the habit. Sometimes a young guy or girl grows up in a family that is careless or casual about little courtesies. Thus he or she has to learn not to speak when someone else is talking, and not to talk with a mouth full of food. If you keep your voice low and pleasant, say “Thank you” and “Excuse me” at appropriate times. Doing so makes a pleasant impression on new and old friends.
Some schools have special courses in social arts where students get opportunities for practicing those graces that make getting along with others easy. Books, articles, and lectures also help to give guys and girls an idea of what kind of behaviour is expected of them when they begin to have dates.
Practice Makes Perfect
When you say “Ted is such fun to be with!” do you know why? Do you realise it takes practice to become a “fun individual”? It involves some rather complicated skills. For example, knowing how to carry on a conversation or knowing how to enter a group pleasantly. Or, being able to accept and refuse invitations graciously, assuming responsibility for one’s part in the group activity, and generally making others glad that you’re there.
Most guys and girls are awkward in group situations at first. But as they gain experience (first in simple situations with others who know and like them), they get over being self-conscious. Soon they become so poised that they feel at home in most social situations. But this takes time and experience — lots of it.
Mixing With Others
It is no accident that guys and girls who have belonged to clubs and organisations get along more easily with people than do those who have grown up somewhat isolated. Being a member of a group doesn’t only give you experience in planning and making decisions with others. It also gives you experience in carrying responsibility for your part in a project. And it also introduces you to a variety of human situations and human beings. You begin to learn how the next guy “ticks.”
If you want to be more acceptable to the opposite sex, then you ought to get into group activities with other young people of both sexes. Mingling with a mixed group will get you ready for dating and it will develop those skills which will help you carry off a date successfully.
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