Why are guys such sexual creatures? It can be a big concern to a lot of women. This information may help you to understand some of the motivations and driving forces behind that mysterious other half of the human race we seem constantly at odds with. If they are functioning in a relatively healthy state, and by that I mean psychologically and emotionally, then most of them are really quite simple once you understand what motivates their physical needs. When you do you can predict their behaviour even before they themselves know what they are going to do next. So here we go……
Everyone knows that men and women are different. Just how different we are is something that we all tend to underestimate. It is true that all humans, both men and women, are pretty much driven by the same needs and desires, but the biochemistry of the two motivates them in very different ways.
Humans are complex masses of chemistry that form our bodies and motivate our drives. We are a mixture of physical needs and emotional responses, while at the same time housing a creative life force that has an intelligence that flows through all forms of life. My personal conviction is that we are a spiritual being having a human experience, however, having said that we still need to work within the rules of being in this dimension. Ahead of anything else that drives us is the need to keep the species alive. Before we were able to evolve to the point we‘re at today we needed to be pretty damn good at reproduction. Ultimately, if you didn’t spend much time having sex your genetics failed to be passed on.
Because the species relies on reproduction in order to survive, sex is vital in the overall scheme of things. Throughout evolution (and I’m not saying that the only place we evolved was here on earth…. but that’s a whole other topic for another article), sex has developed to the point where it had to be pleasurable and desirable so that humans will want to do plenty of it. Sex is designed for reproduction, ahead of anything else. Those who enjoy sex and do it a lot continue to propagate the species.
Once we understand this we can then look at the different chemistries that make up men and women. Men have the hormone testosterone in large amounts in their bodies, whereas women have the hormones progesterone and oestrogen, both of which influence the development of male and female characteristics and form. Testosterone, when in combination with the X and Y chromosomes, will lead to the development of a baby boy or a baby girl and will also have an impact on the behaviour traits of the child, depending on the amount of testosterone that is in the mother’s bloodstream during gestation, and when it peaks and when it troughs. Surges of testosterone during different weeks of gestation will affect the personality of the child that is born, no matter whether that child is male or female.
Although all three hormones are present in both boys and girls, the most dominant one will significantly affect the child’s development. Thus we have older kids developing passive or aggressive character traits, which is as much a hormonally driven factor as a social condition. The brain of a boy child is as different to that of a girl as is their physical appearances. Hence their brain’s neural pathways differ, as do the desires that drive the children. The most notable difference between the brain of a boy child and that of a girl is that the Corpus Callosum is much thicker in a girl than it is in a boy, so the information from one hemisphere of the brain transfers much faster to the other hemisphere in the brain. Here is a definition of what the corpus callosum is, taken from Wikipedia:
“The corpus callosum (from Latin: “tough body”), also known as the colossal commissure, is a wide, flat bundle of neural fibres beneath the cortex in the eutherian brain at the longitudinal fissure. It connects the left and right cerebral hemispheres and facilitates interhemispheric communication. It is the largest white matter structure in the brain, consisting of 200–250 million contralateral axonal projections.”
So this understanding of the physical difference of the brain also helps us understand where females get their intuitive ability and their multi-tasking ability from and where men get their ability to focus so intently on completing one task at a time.
It is a well-known fact that testosterone in boys leads them to be more physically driven, which then leads to being more sexually active. Their bodies will grow in significantly different ways to those of girls, and women who are given manufactured doses of testosterone will develop deeper voices, facial and body hair, wider shoulders and narrower hips than what they previously had. They become faster athletes and they think about sex on a regular hourly basis, whereas they did not do so prior. They also find it much harder to cry, according to the results of tests done on women who felt that they should be a man rather than a woman and who were taking testosterone supplements to prompt the changeover. These women voluntarily submitted to injections of testosterone and at the end of the review period were thus able to speak of the differences in their makeup once the hormone had been given time to have an effect on them.
So we know for a fact that our chemistry is a major driving force behind why we do what we do. As a woman, if you can remember that then you can make allowances for behaviour that previously you did not understand. It is a common complaint among women that say that men seem to want sex every second moment of the day. Well, it’s true. It’s a biologically driven fact. They aren’t being sick or perverse; they’re just being themselves. It’s in their biology and their nature to always want sex, because it’s there to keep our species alive.
It’s this very nature that drives them to approach us all the time. Most guys are just normal, nice guys. When men are balanced in their emotions and aren’t abusive towards women, they were well spoken, well behaved and simply showing interest because they find us attractive. It’s a little different when men are abusive though, because their motivations for having sex are more about exerting power over a woman than about getting their needs met or wanting to share their love with her. If you have a partner who does this or if you sense that the guy who just approached you is like this, then be aware that he has distorted his own inclinations and now acts in the extreme. What you are experiencing or about to experience is not normal. If you are faced with or are in that situation, please seek help to get out, or avoid the situation altogether when you first see it coming. When sex is used as a power to wield over a woman it’s a very unhealthy situation indeed. Sex is the union of two people, and if you are forced or coerced into sharing yourself with someone who doesn’t love you and treat you with respect, then you are ultimately being self-abusive by allowing that to happen, so if you can see it coming don’t stay to let it happen. Some men are very cunning though, and sometimes you won’t see it coming. If you unexpectedly get raped it definitely wasn’t your fault. Under those circumstances you were definitely victimised. What I am talking about here is staying in a situation where you know that there is something not right about the man you are dating. Or, a relationship where you are being abused and it’s happening more than once. If you forgave the man for abusing you the first time and you stayed and he continued, then this situation is a reflection of not feeling good about yourself enough to leave. You need help to leave because you are now being self-abusive by allowing it to happen more than once. If you cannot find the courage to leave on your own, go and tell someone what is happening so that they can assist you to leave.
Anyway, the thing is that yes, we are all basically driven by our hormones, however, the goal of becoming an evolved human is to gain mastery over our base natures. I will write in my next article about what I feel is the best approach towards sex and human sexuality. I’ll post an article with comments made when I saw one of Teal Swan (Teal Scott)’s videos.
