How to Spot a Cheating Partner
Do you suspect that your partner is cheating on you? If you do, you are definitely not alone. Infidelity is actually quite common these days. You can see it all over television and almost everyone has known someone who has been cheated on, in one way or another. There’s always a number of signs that you will want to be on the lookout for. Here’s a few tips on How to Spot a Cheating Partner:
He Loves Me.. He Loves Me Not
When is appears that your partner is cheating, there may come a point in time when you have to decide what to do about it. If you’re young, as often as you may hear an adult say “you are young, you will find love again,” you may still want to have concrete proof that your partner is cheating on you. After all, if love is what you feel, you may be unsure about ending the relationship.
The following signs are all things to watch out for if you’re to determine whether your partner is cheating on your or not.
They Stop Hanging Out With You
In the past, did you and your partner spend a lot of time together? Did you enjoy hanging out with their friends, going to the movies, or attending parties together? Are those days gone? If so, your relationship may be over and your partner may be cheating on you.
If your partner stops hanging out with you or if he or she stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that they are cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him or her, he or she is likely worried that their friends will talk. Because, chances are their close friends already know that they are cheating on you. In fact, do your partner’s friends treat you any differently?
New Friends
It is also important to examine your partner’s friends. Do they act different towards you? Do you still hangout with them as a group, like as much as before? If not, your partner is likely trying to keep his or her new romantic interest a secret. When young people try to juggle multiple relationships, they often confide in their friends. Keeping you away from those friends may be a defense mechanism.
Changed Appearance
Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.
Has your wife or girlfriend started to change her appearance? For example, has she always worn glasses but has all of a sudden opted for contact lenses? Has she recently started showing more skin? Dressing provocatively is a common sign of cheating, especially if your wife or girlfriend typically dresses conservatively. Switching perfumes or wearing it more often can be another sign of cheating. This can be done to impress a new man or to cover up another man’s scent.
If your husband has changed his appearance dramatically in one way or another, it can be a sign of cheating. For example, he could change the style of clothing that he wears, either shave or decide to grow a beard, or start wearing cologne when he never had before. Another major sign to look for, in terms of changed appearance, is if your husband takes extra steps to ensure that he looks his best for work or when going out with friends.
A Change in Affection
A change in the amount of affection that your partner gives you could be seen as a sign of them having an affair. For example, has your love life been happy and healthy in the past? Was your relationship filled with fun, adventure, and great sex? If so, has that changed? If your wife no longer compliments you as she did before or does something as simple as pull away during a kiss, an affair may be going on. Many cheating women try to avoid close contact with their husbands in fear of getting caught or letting their guilt show.
A Rude Attitude
Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that they do this is by being rude to you. He or she may accuse you of cheating on them or they may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behaviour by claiming that their partner deserved to be cheated on.
You Can’t Get In Touch With Your Partner
Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend or girlfriend / husband or wife communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your partner, he or she might be cheating on you. After all, why would he or she always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?
You’re Hearing Rumours
When you’re in high school, one thing is for sure, and it’s that high school students like to gossip. So too do work colleagues if you’re older than high school. As previously stated, your partner’s friends and colleagues likely already know that he or she is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends, colleagues or their own partners. This is likely to start rumours. Although, not all rumours that you hear at school or in the workplace are true. But still, you may want to listen carefully.
Secrecy
A partner becoming more secretive can often point to an extramarital affair. For example, does your partner spend too much time on the phone or the internet? If so, what do they say when you ask him or her what they are doing? If you receive a “nothing,” or a “none of your business,” response, something may be going on.
In keeping with phone and internet use, does your partner automatically hang-up the phone whenever you walk into a room? Do they shut off the computer or try to block your view of it? If so, your partner’s secrecy may mean that he or she is trying to cover up an affair. Or, they are addicted to porn on the internet, which is just as bad as having an affair.
Changes in Bills
If you’re a husband, one of the simplest ways to catch a cheating wife is to start paying your bills. In most relationships, this is the woman’s responsibility, but make it yours. Examine your wife’s mobile phone bills. Does it show what phone numbers are called or what numbers text messages and pictures are received from? Also, closely examine credit card bills. Are there expenses listed for hotel rooms, vacations, restaurants, or anything else that you have no idea about? If so, your wife may be cheating on you.
A Loss of Interest in Family
One of the biggest signs of a cheating husband is the loss of interest in your family. Are you and your husband parents? If so, has your husband completely lost interest in doing things with you or your children? Your husband may be cheating if he would much rather spend time alone or with friends than with you or your family.
Displaying Guilt
If your husband really is having an affair, he is likely to be dealing with a large amount of guilt. This guilt can typically work two ways. He could show you much more attention and give you more affection then he normally does. On the other hand, he can display anger and frustration with you. Anger often tends to give cheating husbands a reason not to feel so guilty.
Unusual Phone Use
Another good sign that your husband may be cheating on you is if he acts weird when using the phone. Does your husband get quiet when you enter the room or does he hang-up the phone? Is his mobile phone being used to talk to “friends,” as opposed to your family phone? If so, try to get hold of your husband’s cell phone to examine the call log or else checkout the phone bill. This should be done because your husband may be cheating on you.
Unusual Schedule Changes
If your husband or boyfriend has had some uncommon and unusual changes in his schedule, this could be a sign that he is cheating. For example, does your husband or boyfriend normally not work overtime or stay late? If he has started doing so all of a sudden, there is a good chance that cheating may be to blame. What about common or unexpected business trips?
In addition to changes with a work schedule, your husband’s/boyfriend’s friendships should also be closely examined. When he spends time with his friends, is he gone longer than usual? Has a new friend or family member recently appeared in the picture?
The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that you will notice in a cheating partner. If you think that he or she is cheating on you, just be sure to keep your eyes and ears open. Unfortunately for the cheaters, they often make mistakes. Many people get so comfortable, that they slip up at one time or another. If you know what to look for, this is when you may be able to catch your partner cheating.
What To Do Next
If you’re a guy and you find out that your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, you may want to carefully approach the subject. Never confront your wife or girlfriend in front of your children. No matter how angry you are, do not get violent and try to keep your voice at a reasonable level. As hard as it can be, calming yourself down upon approaching the situation can better allow you and your wife or girlfriend to have an honest discussion. This where you can decide what will happen to you and your relationship next.
Or, If you’re a teenage girl and you discover that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases. If you’re a young guy, the last thing that you want to do is be associated with a girl who likes to cheat and possibly sleep around. For that reason, once suspicion has arisen, you’ll want to do everything that you can to find out the truth.
If you’re a wife, as difficult as it can be for you to learn that your husband is cheating on you, it is important to think about the long-term situation at hand. Knowing is better than speculating. In fact, your husband and his cheating ways can put your health at risk with the transmission of sex related diseases. Also, if you are a parent, you have your children’s safety and well-being to take into consideration.
Don’t stay with a cheater. He or she will only bring you pain.
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