This pain is not to make you sad, remember. That’s where people go on missing…. This pain is just to make you more alert — because people become alert only when the arrow goes deep into their heart and wounds them. Otherwise they don’t become alert. When life is easy, comfortable, convenient, who cares? Who bothers to become alert? When a friend dies, there is a possibility. When your man leaves you alone — those dark nights, you are lonely. You have loved that man so much and you have staked all, and then suddenly one day he is gone. Crying in your loneliness, those are the occasions when, if you use them, you can become aware. The arrow is hurting: it can be used. The pain is not to make you miserable, the pain is to make you more aware! And when you are aware, misery disappears.
Also, drop guilt! — because to be guilty is to live in hell. Not being guilty, you will have the freshness of dewdrops in the early morning sun, you will have the freshness of lotus petals in the lake, you will have the freshness of the stars in the night. Once guilt disappears you will have a totally different kind of life, luminous and radiant. You will have a dance to your feet and your heart will be singing a thousand and one songs.
It is a common thread amongst women that they don’t believe they are very attractive. This is due to the constant bombardment by everything around them, from the television, to the magazines, to the music they listen to, to the movies they go and see, to the billboards that do the advertising, to the packaging that products come in. It’s everywhere! There is a certain look that is deemed appealing, and we are constantly indoctrinated to believe that this is what men want because of the amount of times that this idea is repeated to us. The truth of the matter is far from that, of course. Men make up their own mind as to what they find attractive, and most would have a different view of what they think is attractive to what the media portrays that they think is attractive. Continue reading →
There’s no doubt about it, Ballroom and Latin dancing is changing the way people feel about exercise, and themselves! For those skeptics who don’t believe in the power of the mind in health and medicine, we have listed the physical proof first. Millions of people every year are enjoying the many benefits that these forms of dance provide. From physical, mental and social standpoints, our favourite recreation is one of the best overall forms of low impact/high aerobic workouts available. It’s fun, it can be free, and best of all it’s always done with someone else! Here are just a few of the many benefits Ballroom offers: Continue reading →
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden. Continue reading →
Sexual harassment can be a confusing issue—one person may be flattered by a comment about their appearance while another may be offended by the same comment. The majority of teens do not sexually harass their peers to be harmful or malicious. Rather, they are testing boundaries or attempting to establish dating relationships without realising that their behaviours are unwanted. However, once you enter the workforce where you are mixing with older men and women, what once was harmless flirting becomes something with a lot more meaning than it did before.
The difference between flirting and sexual harassment can be determined by the following:
How the behaviour feels to the recipient—is it wanted or unwanted?
The amount of freedom a person has to act—can the recipient walk away and no longer be bothered? Can the recipient tell the harasser “no” and the unwanted behaviour stop?
The power difference between the two parties—do both people have equal power or does one have more power than the other? This may be determined by size of the individuals involved, number of people doing harassing, level in high school (up to school certificate age, or beyond), or the authority the harasser has over the recipient such as employer/employee or teacher/student.
Who your superiors are and whether they are taking advantage of their position when dealing with you (especially when you first enter the workforce). Do they intimidate you, knowing that quite often you would not be very confident of yourself yet when it comes to your sexuality?
The comfort level of any physical contact—when flirting, the contact is comfortable for both parties involved.
The “Eye of the Beholder”
Rarely does the person accused of sexual harassment view their behaviour as offensive. Rather, they dismiss it by saying “a lot of people are doing it” (and therefore it is acceptable); view the behaviour as being “no big deal” or “we were just joking around”; or, identify it as flirting. Regardless of the harasser’s intention or perception, it is the recipient’s interpretation of the action or behaviour that is important. This interpretation is known as the “eye of the beholder” standard. It takes into account the effect the behaviour had on the recipient rather than the intent of the harasser.
A global report showing that Australia has one of the lowest rates of violence against women is hardly a cause for celebration, according to social welfare groups. Domestic violence is becoming the “Greatest Social Epidemic”of our time. Below is an aussie newspaper article on Domestic Violence.
The World Health Organisation’s first international study into the prevalence of violence against women found that one in four women in high-income countries have been abused by their partners, compared with a third of women worldwide. Continue reading →