Dread of Being Declined
When socialising, you must try to stave off the Dread of Being Declined. Such dread produces feelings of vacancy, aloneness, and reclusiveness. They sap you of the favourable desire to connect with other people and push you out of alignment with affection. Is there anything inherently grievous about walking up to a different individual and stating, “Hello, my name is Joe. You look like somebody whom I have not met previously. What is your name?” No, there’s not.
At the start of the conversation the other individual might indeed react like you’re attempting to sell them something. However, they’ll frequently give you the benefit of the doubt and let the conversation carry on. The worst case scenario is that nothing occurs. Continue reading