Why Argue?

balance amidst the storm

Why argue? This is a topic I know a lot about. I watched my mother and father argue about anything and everything, often with my father turning violent when they did. It seemed to be the only way that they knew how to communicate at times. Unfortunately, growing up in that household taught me to do the same thing myself. It was onlyWhy argue? This is a topic I know a lot about. I watched my mother and father argue about anything and everything, often with my father turning violent when they did. when I became aware of what I was doing and the reasons why I was doing it that I was able to make a conscious effort to change. It’s a challenging process to go from finding energy outside of you to bringing it forth from within, however it can in fact be done. There is a centre of energy at our heart that is never-ending, that will provide us with all that we need if we begin to remember how to do access it.

I remember being very little and feeling an urgent sense to push my mother away whenever she would attempt to give me a hug. I would scream and shove, which no-doubt caused her a great deal of hurt and confusion, however, from a very finely tuned sense of being able to feel what was actually going on when she would want to hug me, I was protecting myself from her energy-draining ways. I couldn’t express what I was doing at the time, because I didn’t know how to describe what I was feeling and why I would react the way I did. All I knew was that her hug wasn’t loving – it was needy, and I didn’t want her stealing my energy.

To explain what I mean, I’m going to talk about the relatively recent fascination with Vampires that we see in the movies these days. It is no co-incidence that Vampires are so popular in fiction and in movies. Novelists and Hollywood writers tend to tap into the mass consciousness of the people and provide messages via stories in order to give clues and much needed information to their viewers and readers at that particular point in time. They also tell us what is actually going on in the world in the form of science-fiction and conspiracy movie plots, but that is another story for another article.

The fascination with Vampires stems from the fact that on an energy level, the world is full of Vampires. You might even be one yourself, although you might not realise it. A great mass of uncleared issues have gathered within humans alive today (passed down from generation to generation), that need to be brought to the surface and cleared. While ever these issues remain uncleared, what we have in humanity is a great pain that often manifests as neediness in one way or another. Essentially, people who were unloved throughout their childhood go on to become adults who need to suck on the energy of others in order to make it through the day. This energetic Vampirism manifests in many forms, some of which I’ll name here: co-dependency, drug addiction, rage-addiction, eating disorders, gambling addictions, alcoholism, becoming a sexual predator, and finally, domestic violence (just to name a few).

Instead of learning to discipline oneself towards remaining pretty calm throughout most of the day, humans who are essentially energy Vampires will create all sorts of dramas in their life in order that they can pull energy from a situation… either by starting an argument with someone, or by seducing someone sexually in order to get an energy fix from a casual sexual encounter (or worse, by taking sex from someone who is unable to say no, such as a child or someone who has such low self-esteem and confidence that they cannot say no), or loving out of neediness rather than a sense of being whole and complete and bringing that wholeness to the relationship in order to share yourself with another.

My mother didn’t realise what she was doing, but I knew. I wasn’t able to express myself at the time about what I was feeling. All I knew was that I had to keep her away from me because her hugs weren’t nourishing. They were quite draining, in fact. Poor Mum, she’d been through such a difficult life as a young girl and missed out on the loving she needed in order to become whole, that it drove her to marry an abuser and then become the same kind of abuser that she herself had been forced to experience. I have made it my mission not to have children until I am capable of breaking the pattern of abuse that ran generation after generation through my own family.

There are many reasons why people grow up half-finished, so to speak. “Love” is concentrating upon another human being, directing energy at them until they feel worthy of who they are. When parents fail to do that for their children – either because they don’t know how to, or because they have no love within themselves to give to another, or because they are out working to make a living and don’t have time to – the children don’t get the love that they need in order to become whole. I find it very interesting that as education became available to more and more people and the human potential movement began to emerge where psychology and self-development topics were written of and delved into, another road-block was put in place to prevent humanity from evolving. That roadblock was the obsession with having to work to earn money to own things, which takes time away from the really important role of parenting. Also, although the Church has done a lot of damage over the years and it needed a reformation in the way that it taught the information needed to connect with God, there has been a revolution called the New Age movement which in some ways has freed people and in other ways has taken people too far away from teachings that would prevent their own self-destruction. The balance has swung too far in the opposite direction and people now feel that they can do whatever they like to a degree.

What I see throughout western societies is a great divide between what we really need as humans in order to be happy, and what we are led to believe we need in order to be happy. This is largely due to the fact that the family unit has been (purposely) broken down so that parents can’t focus on their children and give them the love that is needed to help them to grow up to become happy, emotionally healthy, well-rounded individuals. Instead, all the influences around us, which are put in place by those who stand to benefit from the effect that those influences will have on us, make us look outwards for our happiness, planting the idea that we need “stuff”, or the love of someone else, or fame or fortune in order to be happy.

Those who stand to benefit are the corporations that want us to buy their stuff. We are conditioned to believe that we have to work 40+ hours a week to earn enough to support ourselves so that we can go out and spend money on all the things that the media tempts us to buy, which will supposedly allow us to be loved and accepted by others because we own all this “stuff”. If the truth of that fallacy be known, other people are too busy working the 40+ hours a week that needs to be worked in order that they too can buy the same “stuff” so that you will then notice and appreciate them! What a load of bullshit that is (‘scuse the Aussie tone to my expression). Buckminster Fuller says, “We have to do away with that absolutely specious notion that everybody has to earn a living. It is a fact today that one in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest. We keep inventing jobs because of this false idea that everybody has to be employed at some kind of drudgery because, according to the Malthusian-Darwinian theory, we must justify our right to exist.” I reckon he’s onto something there.

Another glass ceiling in our lives is that we are taught that certain professions deserve to be paid more than others, and yet all professions take time to learn and effort to do, so why is one any more valuable than another? Then there are legislations created to make sure that nobody charges more than the agreed rate for the services that they provide and the items that they sell. Never mind the fact that women’s work is the kind of work that if not done, would cause society to fall apart. So how then can the system justify not paying women equal pay to men whenever they provide a similar fundamental service? What makes an hour of a woman’s time any less valuable than an hour of a man’s time? Is the mind more powerful than the body? Is nursing, or cooking, or serving, or caring, any less important than say, being an accountant or a lawyer? I say that it isn’t. Speaking of which, I studied law briefly, concentrating on Common Law mostly but also observing Statutory Law and Admiralty Law in the process, and my opinion of lawyers now is that they are trained to use words in a way where their meaning is other than how it appears, but that’s a whole topic for another conversation later.

What I do agree on though, is that the level of concentrated effort applied should determine the amount of return that is given for the work done. Measuring the level of concentration would require some sort of energy detection device, which when applied and the results gathered, would be the only time I would agree that there should be a difference in pay. If a person is totally present and is applying themselves to their work, and the person next to them is daydreaming as they work, then the person who is focused and being more productive should earn more (and this is not dependent upon the age, race or sex of the people whose energy is being assessed). But apart from that, there should be far less of a divide between the value of men’s work as compared to women’s. My point here is, there are so many things that prevent us having freedom, because this world is run on a monetary and legislative system that is designed to restrict us. Anyway, I digress. Let’s look again at what causes energetic vampirism and how to avoid it.

In order not to be an energy Vampire, you must be settled in your emotions and be content to live in the present moment, not leaning out into the future or trying to attach yourself to others. The only way to become like this is through inner observation of why you do things. Jiddu Krishnamurti says: “What will bring peace is inward transformation, which will lead to outward action. Inward transformation is not isolation, is not withdrawal from outward action. On the contrary – there can be right action only when there is right thinking and there is no right thinking when there is no self-knowledge. Without knowing yourself, there is no peace. An Ideal is merely an escape, an avoidance of what is, a contradiction of what is. An ideal prevents direct action upon what is. To have peace, we will have to love, we will have to begin not to live an ideal life but to see things as they are and act upon them, transform them. As long as each one of us is seeking psychological security, the physiological security we need; food, clothing and shelter, is destroyed. Some of you will nod your heads and say, “I agree”, and go outside and do exactly the same as you have been doing for the last ten or twenty years. Your agreement is merely verbal and has no significance, for the world’s miseries and wars are not going to be stopped by your casual assent. They will be only stopped when you realise the danger, when you realise your responsibility, when you do not leave it to somebody else. If you realise the suffering, if you see the urgency of immediate action and do not postpone, then you will transform yourself.”

My spiritual teacher, Stuart Wilde, was Taoist and his teachings have had a huge effect on me. Not only have his teachings become my own beliefs, but through experiencing what happens when I apply the things I’ve learned from him, not only are they now not simply just beliefs, but I have now reached a point where I am able to know certain things to be truth, rather than just following someone else’s teachings. I know that without a certain moral code in one’s life, and without acknowledging that a Higher Power exists, and that there are certain laws that govern our existence, we will flail around like a ship without a rudder. Of course, that Higher Power is a light, an energy, and it flows through us as well as around us, and we can tap into it at any time we want. It’s always there, it’s just that we disconnect ourselves from it. When our lives become unbalanced and we don’t cleanse our thoughts and purify our bodies, alkalising our lives by resisting becoming negative and by working to become good, then we do become Vampires. We create arguments and dramas so that we can get the energetic “hit” we need. We spit hatred out of our mouths at others, we judge, we condemn, we don’t forgive. We become vessels that the demonic operates through, and we willingly let that happen.

One of the cleverest things ever done in the spiritual battle for man’s soul is that good Churches have been destroyed in a premeditated plot to destroy humanity’s belief in Satan and his minions. The idea that there isn’t a war being waged between the Forces of Light and the Forces of Darkness has been perpetrated so that man’s darkness can hide inside his own mind and not be seen for what it is. I think it’s a very dangerous thing that people play so willingly into the hands of those forces when they openly look into the dark crafts and explore how to gain power over others and affect change by casting spells. True power comes from self-discipline, not from trying to control others. There’s a fantastic movie that came out in the late 70s or early 80s called They Live, which was actually banned from being shown in the US due to the vast number of truths expressed in that movie. I’ll put the link to it at the end of this article so that you can watch it if you like.

True power also comes from shining the light of observation into oneself, as Jiddu Krishnamurti said in the previous quote above. When you look within yourself at the things that you do that are “less than best”, you bring Light to your own darkness, and you start to Know Thyself. Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism (which is the set of teachings that my own teacher studied most devotedly), wrote “He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”   I find it very interesting that Lao Tzu used the word “enlightened”, because to become enlightened in the context of what he was saying would mean to shine a light (in the form of observation) within yourself, and by doing so you get to see all that is within yourself that needs healing and fixing (and ridding, some cases). It is by turning within that you begin to go through the healing needed so that you no longer need to suck on the energy of anything outside of yourself. It is by turning within that you start to know yourself, and it is also the point when you start to know God. Psalm 82: 6 in the King James Bible says “I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High.” Luke 17:21 says “the Kingdom of God is within.” Romans 14:17 says “For the Kingdom of God is not meat or drink, but righteousness.”   Ramana Maharshi says “Your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world.” All of these teachers are saying turn within, which I have found to be true.

Personally, I suspect that the Being that was Jesus was the same Being that incarnated at various times prior to Jesus’s lifetime in order to teach people how to evolve, and (let me step out on a limb here) is the same Being that has incarnated at least twice that I know of since the time of Jesus. I also believe that he is a multi-dimensional Being who has incarnated into several bodies in order to teach us what we need to learn to evolve. So, there is a wealth of information available to assist us onto the road less travelled – the one that will lead us to a place where we become human angels, returning to that which we originally were prior to incarnating here. If you want to stop creating drama in your life, if you want to stop being an energetic Vampire, then begin the process of turning within to heal and restore yourself to who you really are. As Stuart Wilde says, “I’m the way, the truth and the light and so are you, so let’s not argue anymore.”

Here’s the link to the movie They Live. Enjoy!


Please note: Unfortunately, They Live is not allowed to be seen in the United States. My video upload has been blocked in that country. I recommend purchasing the video online to be able to watch it, if you live in the United States.