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When your Adult Daughter Gets Isolated

when your adult daughter gets isolated

When your Adult Daughter Gets Isolated

The following scenario happens often. Find out what to do when your adult daughter gets isolated from you by the abusive man whom she married. We’ll start by hearing the thoughts of the distraught mother of an adult daughter:

“I hаvеn’t ѕееn mу grаndсhіldrеn fоr thrее уеаrѕ…аnd а thіrd one hаѕ been born whоm wе’vе (mу huѕbаnd аnd I) nеvеr mеt,” ѕаіd а dіѕtrаught wоmаn.

Cоnvіnсеd thаt hеr аdult сhіld іѕ іn аn аbuѕіvе rеlаtіоnѕhір, the woman that is quoted fеаrѕ fоr hеr dаughtеr’ѕ lіfе аnd thе lіvеѕ оf hеr grаndсhіldrеn.

Wіth thіѕ kіnd оf fеаr undеr nоrmаl сіrсumѕtаnсеѕ, ѕhе wоuld hаvе buѕtеd іn tо аѕѕіѕt hеr еndаngеrеd сhіld. Yеt wіth thіѕ, ѕhе hаѕ nоt. Continue reading

Feminism

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I believe that the feminist movement that was orchestrated during the mid 20th century by those who stood to benefit from double income households, was not a step forward for women at all. All it did was give us more to do, while pushing the price of housing up and giving the tax departments in each country another source of revenue.

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Is your Adult Child being Abused?

is your adult child being abused

Is Your Adult Child being Abused?

Pаrеntѕ аrе оftеn thе fіrѕt tо rесоgnіsе whеn thеіr сhіldrеn аrе іn аbuѕіvе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. Hоwеvеr, thеіr аwаrеnеѕѕ іѕ nоt аlwауѕ uѕеd tо thе bеnеfіt оf thеіr аbuѕеd сhіldrеn.

Whу? Bесаuѕе оf thе fumblе thаt оссurѕ whеn thеу mаkе оnе оr mоrе оf thе fоllоwіng three dеаdlу mіѕtаkеѕ that раrеntѕ mаkе whеn thеу соmе tо thе аіd оf thеіr сhіldrеn іn аbuѕіvе rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. Continue reading

Maternal Narcissism

maternal narcissism

Maternal Narcissism

If you were abused as a young girl and your needs were neglected, there is a very high chance that you’re an adult narcissist who is trying to get your needs met through your children.  I’ve heard so many stories of women who’ve had kids in order to feel loved, in order to fill a gap within themselves, and one such story is my own mother’s story. Continue reading

The Strength to Rise after a Fall

the strength to rise after a fall

♡~♥~♡

It is not how many times we fall that matters, but rather, how many times we get back up again.

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Update: The first novel in our series of seven is now published, and is a courageous story of a young teen growing up in a home filled with domestic violence, and how she manoeuvres her way through such a difficult situation. Click here if you’d like to know more about this novel.

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Wounds that Prevent Intimacy

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Madeline Rose ©

Many women grow up believing that life will be wonderful and that there will be a happy-ever-after ending by about the age of 24 or so. Often this doesn’t occur, because unless we deal with the result of the pain of many generations gone, plus the build-up of experiences over the course of our lives, we will never get to have the depth of connection that we want with an intimate partner. Continue reading

What is Love?

What is Love?

what is love?

1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

This powerful passage from the Bible gives us the traits of what it means to be the embodiment of Love. One thing that many people forget in their search for love is that love isn’t outside of ourselves. It comes from within. Unfortunately in homes where Domestic Violence is prevalent though, children don’t witness good examples of people who love one another or who love themselves. Often they too become victims of abuse, which causes them to yearn and pine for the love that they didn’t experience in the home that they grew up in. Consequently they often become the co-dependents, the alcoholics and the adults with addictive personalities. Often too, unless God operates through the people in their lives in order to heal them, they remain broken for years. Only the love of God can heal them, which can only happen if the right people are allowed to help them. People who are warriors of the Christ Light, for whom the sword they carry is one made of Love.

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Update: The first novel in our series of seven is now published, and is a courageous story of a young teen growing up in a home filled with domestic violence, and how she manoeuvres her way through such a difficult situation. Click here if you’d like to know more about this novel.

Click here if you’d like to be taken to the site where you can purchase this novel.

A Very Special Child

a very special child

A Very Special Child

Do You Know Who His Daddy Is? by Zig Ziglar

When Ben Hooper was born many years ago in the foothills of East Tennessee, little boys and girls like Ben who were born to unwed mothers were ostracized and treated terribly. By the time he was three years old, the other children would scarcely play with him. Parents were saying idiotic things like, “What’s a boy like that doing playing with our children?” as if the child had anything at all to do with his own birth. Continue reading

Unconditional Love

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 Love Without Conditions by Sandy Stevenson

“To love another person is to see the face of God” ~ Victor Hugo

I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world I love you as a reflection of God..

I honour your choices to learn in the way you feel is right for you.

I know it is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you “should” be. I realise that I cannot know what is best for you, although perhaps sometimes I think I do. Continue reading