I have recently found myself contemplating how my upbringing and the way I see myself today would possibly be different if I was born in the year 2000 rather than in 1993. I look at young girls now who are barely entering their teenage years and wonder how it appears that so much has changed since I was at the age of twelve, wearing clothes that my mum had bought for me and no make-up. My cousin is now at the age of twelve where wearing the latest fashion labels, hair extensions and false nails is a big part in constructing her image. Although to my family we look so alike, I have found that being seven years apart we could not be more different. I feel that living in a sexualised society plays a major role in influencing young girls to convey a certain sexual maturity and portray an image far beyond their years. Adult sexual motifs are seeping into products and clothing targeted at children so much so that it appears the gap between what is produced for children and for adults is being pulled closer and closer together. Not only is the merchandise aimed at young girls pushing the boundaries of “sexiness”, but the images of women we see in our day-to-day lives, in particular through advertising and music videos, emote a certain provocative and sexual allure that can in turn have many harmful physical and mental effects on young girls. Continue reading →
Do you think that female music icons in the music industry are a bad influence on young women? Are you concerned that music Divas have turned women into sex objects? It cannot be denied that these pop singers have changed the way that women are viewed these days. Many studies have been conducted in recent years to find a connection between the words within the music as well as the music videos of female icons and the negative effects on the young teenagers who watch them with interest. The statistics and results of these videos are shocking, but not surprising. It is time to think about this issue seriously before it ruins the moral values completely in the young women who are to be the mothers of society in coming years. Here is an analysis of media and music the negative side. Continue reading →
Many women grow up believing that life will be wonderful. They expect that there will be a happy-ever-after ending by about the age of 24 or so. Often this doesn’t occur, because we’re confronted with the pain of many generations gone. Not to mention the build-up of experiences over the course of our lives. Unless these things are dealt with we’ll never have the depth of connection that we want with an intimate partner. Continue reading →
It’s not often that people consider the spiritual aspect of sex when they are about to share intimacy with another. Yet, it is the most important act that one could do to prepare themselves for such a union. When a man enters your birth canal, what type of energy and consciousness does he have? Is he bitter? Is he happy? Does he love himself? Does he love you? Is he a positive or a negative thinker? Continue reading →
The title of Sherry Argov’s book isn’t referring to a woman who is constantly in someone’s face. It’s about women who have enough value and respect for themselves to not fall into the trap of being their partner’s doormat. I would highly recommend that all women read this book if they haven’t ready. It definitely helps you realise why all of your relationships seem to be relationshits. Men will only walk all over women who don’t act strong. If you are weak in any way, then you can expect to be treated like a doormat.
There are Five Ways to Say No! Let’s look at how to go about that. The ultimate best way to say no is prior to going on a date, to tell your date that you have no intentions of sleeping with him at the end of the evening. If he’s not happy with that, he’ll tell you not to bother. Good. It saves you from having to fend him off when he tries to impose himself on you later in the evening.
However, even though you may told your date that you’re not going to sleep with him until you know for sure that you’re going to have a committed relationship, he may still try to seduce you into sleeping with him. So this is how to handle the situation when you’ve got a problem on your hands. Continue reading →
Men are terrified of a woman’s depth of love and the energy that moves as a woman’s sexuality and emotions. And, at the same time, men want nothing more in this life than to merge completely with a woman’s devotional love and wild energy.
Only as a man outgrows his fear can he handle a woman’s tremendous love-energy without running. And only such a man is worthy of your devotional offering in a committed intimacy.
What some might think to be a harmless drug is not harmless at all. In fact, marijuana can cause serious sexual problems in many couples. “Marijuana users might experience very weak orgasms or not experience them at all,” says Dr. Juan C. Paredes, board-certified psychiatrist based in South Beach Clinic in Miami Beach who sub-specialises in sexual medicine for men.
We asked Dr. Paredes, as well as Dr. Dennis Lin, sex therapist, psychiatrist and attending physician at the Department of Psychiatry at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York, NY, other questions on the subject. Read on to uncover some important facts about pot and sex… Continue reading →
Today’s values seem to make any kind of behaviour ok, and as such, there is alot of confusion about how to create a good strong foundation for a relationship. I was born in the sixties and grew up with a certain amount of influence from my local fellowship and church. I was taught during my early years that it was best not to immediately have sex with a person when you first start dating, and in hindsight, that teaching suited my personality more aptly than living a more promiscuous lifestyle like some others are OK with doing. For me, my choices were affected by the fact that the someone whom I loved surprised me with sex when we had our first kiss. He acted so quickly and took advantage when he knew that I had such strong feelings that I was like a rabbit in the spotlight, blinded and frozen. It was over in less than a minute, and shortly he was up and gone. I was so disappointed because he was someone I thought was about to become my boyfriend, plus there were spiritual ties between us so it went much deeper than him just being a guy who lived down the road.We were connected on many levels. What shocked me though was that he thought himself pretty cool to have done that to me, because he then went on to brag about it to his mates with the intention to humiliate me, which caused me a huge amount of pain at the time. Continue reading →
I think the biggest part of being human and making peace with our shadow and ego comes out of our need to feel that we are loved. Loved by others, and by ourselves. The search for love leads us down many winding paths. We are plopped down here with no clear destination and with no real idea of how we are supposed to get there even if we had somewhere we knew we wanted to go. The only real instinct we are given is that we seek out love. We don’t know how to do that or what that really entails at first, so we inevitably head down many wrong paths and make many mistakes before we even begin to figure out how to get a clue! If we are lucky we are surrounded by a loving family and group of people who help us make a little headway in the act of how to search…unfortunately for almost all of us, that is not the case! We get love from our family if we are fortunate enough to be born into a loving one, but more often than not, they mean well but they themselves usually came out of the same confusion we were born into. So we are forced to look outside of them to others, and even if our family is very loving, out of curiosity we look to others to see what they are doing and would recommend anyway…and we of course run into trouble…big trouble! It’s just the state of the world we live in to be born into this chaos and confusion and try to make sense of it all. Hell, that’s why we are here! We usually start off doing okay for ourselves for the most part, up until we hit puberty and then BAM! the world flips over on top of us and we have to wiggle our way out from underneath it. Continue reading →