How many people in this world respect and love themselves? Not many people can say that they do because they are so self-conscious that they find it very hard to love themselves. If that state of mind is left to continue, it will break them down more than they are already. Overcoming the negative feelings that you have about yourself can be very hard to do and some people find it very difficult to let go of the negatives that they have. How can you love someone when you can’t even love and respect yourself? When you don’t love and respect yourself, the person whom you say you love will hurt and misuse your love for them. That why it’s so important to first learn to love yourself and respect who you are because there is no one else like you. Continue reading →
I have recently found myself contemplating how my upbringing and the way I see myself today would possibly be different if I was born in the year 2000 rather than in 1993. I look at young girls now who are barely entering their teenage years and wonder how it appears that so much has changed since I was at the age of twelve, wearing clothes that my mum had bought for me and no make-up. My cousin is now at the age of twelve where wearing the latest fashion labels, hair extensions and false nails is a big part in constructing her image. Although to my family we look so alike, I have found that being seven years apart we could not be more different. I feel that living in a sexualised society plays a major role in influencing young girls to convey a certain sexual maturity and portray an image far beyond their years. Adult sexual motifs are seeping into products and clothing targeted at children so much so that it appears the gap between what is produced for children and for adults is being pulled closer and closer together. Not only is the merchandise aimed at young girls pushing the boundaries of “sexiness”, but the images of women we see in our day-to-day lives, in particular through advertising and music videos, emote a certain provocative and sexual allure that can in turn have many harmful physical and mental effects on young girls. Continue reading →
The following poem quite accurately describes the powerlessness that women who are victims of domestic violence feel. It accurately describes their DV victim mindset. However, I’m here to say that this mindset is simply a mindset that can be changed. Despite what the person who wrote it thinks, she truly does have the power to change her situation. It will involve some persistent hard work to change the belief patterns in her mind, but it definitely can be done. Victims don’t have to stay victims. It’s a choice they make to stay that way, and their choice is impacted by abuse from the man whom they have given their heart to. Too often, a victim mindset is initially created by parents who didn’t know how to love, so they pass the pattern of abuse and neglect on down to their daughter. The good news is that you don’t have to stay a victim any longer – you have the power to change your karma. So here’s the poem:
Every day teenagers and young adults are been tempted to do a lot of things that they don’t want to do, however, because of peer pressure and the fact that many of their friends are doing the thing that might not be so good for them, young teens who are seeking acceptance by their peers get involved in it also. So here is a short story of how a young girl is also tempted by her friends. Will she give in to them or will she fight for her own independence? Well let’s get started and find out. I do hope you enjoy my first article on this site. Continue reading →
When it comes to love everyone has a different opinion about what love is and is not. The word “love” refers to different varieties of emotional states, feelings or attitudes which range from those of simple personal pleasures or desires to those characterising interpersonal affection and many forms of profound kindness, compassion, and benevolent concern for the good of others. Love is the only thing that we can carry with us when we go, and it makes the end so easy. What most people would like is to experience more love in life.
The basis of a healthy life today is based on love, every minute, every second; we try to show others how much they mean to us. Though we can’t quantify love we know what it feels like to love and to be loved. Continue reading →
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Then you need to be aware of how your thoughts, words and actions are contributing to (or working against) your peace of mind and how they contribute to the degree of success that you achieve in life. Continue reading →
Do you think that female music icons in the music industry are a bad influence on young women? Are you concerned that music Divas have turned women into sex objects? It cannot be denied that these pop singers have changed the way that women are viewed these days. Many studies have been conducted in recent years to find a connection between the words within the music as well as the music videos of female icons and the negative effects on the young teenagers who watch them with interest. The statistics and results of these videos are shocking, but not surprising. It is time to think about this issue seriously before it ruins the moral values completely in the young women who are to be the mothers of society in coming years. Here is an analysis of media and music the negative side. Continue reading →
Domestic violence is in fact the abuse of power over the less dominant partner by the one who is seeking to control the other. It occurs when a partner exploits any relationship by means of pressurising or exercising power against the other partner. Usually domestic abuse is physical, but sometimes it may appear in some indirect form involving threatening and controlling behaviors of the partner, irritating the partner by causing harm to personal property or abusing the family pet. A family pet is always a very powerful tool that many abusers use to harass and coerce the victim.
The journey towards healing, wholeness and becoming who we really are is often about unlearning the things that we have learned that have held us back throughout our lives. It requires learning to see ourselves through the eyes of compassion, and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes. It requires us to be kind to ourselves. Only when we can offer our own self those things can we offer these things to others. If we are harsh upon our self, then we will be harsh towards others. Continue reading →
If you were abused as a young girl and your needs were neglected, there is a very high chance that you’re an adult narcissist who is trying to get your needs met through your children. I’ve heard so many stories of women who’ve had kids in order to feel loved, in order to fill a gap within themselves, and one such story is my own mother’s story. Continue reading →