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Living in a Sexualised Society

living in a sexualised society

Living in a Sexualised Society

written by Anna Webster ©

Introduction: The Effects on Young Girls 

I have recently found myself contemplating how my upbringing and the way I see myself today would possibly be different if I was born in the year 2000 rather than in 1993. I look at young girls now who are barely entering their teenage years and wonder how it appears that so much has changed since I was at the age of twelve, wearing clothes that my mum had bought for me and no make-up. My cousin is now at the age of twelve where wearing the latest fashion labels, hair extensions and false nails is a big part in constructing her image. Although to my family we look so alike, I have found that being seven years apart we could not be more different. I feel that living in a sexualised society plays a major role in influencing young girls to convey a certain sexual maturity and portray an image far beyond their years. Adult sexual motifs are seeping into products and clothing targeted at children so much so that it appears the gap between what is produced for children and for adults is being pulled closer and closer together. Not only is the merchandise aimed at young girls pushing the boundaries of “sexiness”, but the images of women we see in our day-to-day lives, in particular through advertising and music videos, emote a certain provocative and sexual allure that can in turn have many harmful physical and mental effects on young girls. Continue reading

Failure is Part of Success

failure is part of success

Life is very beautiful if you can manage to see the beauty in every situation. On the other hand it can also be very difficult and challenging. Many people assume that success is very simple and that there should be no downtime as you travel the path towards it, however, if you want to achieve something and you are willing to do everything that it takes to be a success – short of doing anything illegal, unjust or unkind – then you should not be afraid of failing somewhere along the way. In fact, failure is a huge part of success. As the leading experts say, failure is the chance to begin everything again but now you are wise and you are much closer to your goal. Continue reading

Finding Your Feet in Life

finding your feet in life

Finding your Feet in Life

The journey towards healing, wholeness and becoming who we really are is often about unlearning the things that we have learned that have held us back throughout our lives. It requires learning to see ourselves through the eyes of compassion, and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes. It requires us to be kind to ourselves. Only when we can offer our own self those things can we offer these things to others. If we are harsh upon our self, then we will be harsh towards others. Continue reading

Link Between Eating Disorders and Sexual Abuse

link between eating disorders and sexual abuse

Link Between Eating Disorders and Sexual Abuse

The link between eating disorders and sexual abuse has gained a great deal of attention in the past few years. Much research has been conducted in order to discover the link between eating disorders and sexually or emotionally abused women. Many females who undergo treatment of eating disorders have experienced some sort of sexual, physical or emotional abuse at some point in their lives; usually during childhood. The most prominent factor which causes eating disorders in women is sexual abuse, and unfortunately, many of the affected women do not know this because they have suppressed the memory of having been sexually abused. Continue reading

Creative Ways to Stand Up To Bullies

Confront those bullies

Creative Ways to Stand Up to Bullies

When a person or a group of people uses force, coercion or intimidation for aggressively abusing or dominating others, it is known as bullying. This bullying behavior is often repeated and habitual. Bullying can be physical, sexual, or emotional which is often expressed in a verbal way. Some recent statistics have clearly shown that almost all school aged children experience bullying at some level during their academic careers.

Bullying usually includes some social or physical imbalances between the parties involved. Bullying culture can arise in any environment where human beings interact with each other. The long lasting impacts of bullying are very dangerous and they include anxiety, depression and sensitivity. Efforts should be made to stop bullies from bullying among school aged children, otherwise it can affect the victims throughout their school age and their professional lives thereafter.

There are many creative ways to stand up to bullies. Let us have a look at some very useful methods to stand up against bullying: Continue reading

What Abuse Feels Like

what abuse feels like

What Abuse Feels Like

Emоtіоnаllу аbuѕеd. Phуѕісаllу аbuѕеd. Fіnаnсіаllу аbuѕеd. Bеіng аbuѕеd іѕ whаt уоu’vе bесоmе ассuѕtоmеd tо – this is what abuse feels like. Yоu thіnk tо уоurѕеlf “Hоw dіd I lеt thіѕ gо оn ѕо lоng? Hоw dіd I аllоw thіѕ tо hарреn tо mе? Whу hаvеn’t I ѕроkеn tо аnуоnе аbоut whаt I’m gоіng thrоugh? Hоw dіd I еvеn gеt hеrе?” Yоur аbuѕіvе rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ ѕlоwlу kіllіng уоu оn thе іnѕіdе. Yоu’rе аt уоur brеаkіng роіnt. It’ѕ tіmе fоr уоu tо thіnk аbоut YOU fоr а сhаngе bесаuѕе уоu dеѕеrvе wау bеttеr thаn whаt уоu’vе bееn рuttіng uр wіth. Yоu dоn’t dеѕеrvе thіѕ! Yоu DO соunt. Yоu ARE іmроrtаnt. Yоu DO mеаn а lоt tо уоur lоvеd оnеѕ. Thеу саrе fоr уоu. Truѕt mе, thеу dо. Yоu dоn’t hаvе tо рut uр wіth thіѕ аbuѕе аnуmоrе. Rеасh оut fоr hеlр аnd dоn’t fееl аѕhаmеd tо dо ѕо. Continue reading

The Strength to Rise after a Fall

the strength to rise after a fall

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It is not how many times we fall that matters, but rather, how many times we get back up again.

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Update: The first novel in our series of seven is now published, and is a courageous story of a young teen growing up in a home filled with domestic violence, and how she manoeuvres her way through such a difficult situation. Click here if you’d like to know more about this novel.

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What is Love?

What is Love?

what is love?

1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

This powerful passage from the Bible gives us the traits of what it means to be the embodiment of Love. One thing that many people forget in their search for love is that love isn’t outside of ourselves. It comes from within. Unfortunately in homes where Domestic Violence is prevalent though, children don’t witness good examples of people who love one another or who love themselves. Often they too become victims of abuse, which causes them to yearn and pine for the love that they didn’t experience in the home that they grew up in. Consequently they often become the co-dependents, the alcoholics and the adults with addictive personalities. Often too, unless God operates through the people in their lives in order to heal them, they remain broken for years. Only the love of God can heal them, which can only happen if the right people are allowed to help them. People who are warriors of the Christ Light, for whom the sword they carry is one made of Love.

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Update: The first novel in our series of seven is now published, and is a courageous story of a young teen growing up in a home filled with domestic violence, and how she manoeuvres her way through such a difficult situation. Click here if you’d like to know more about this novel.

Click here if you’d like to be taken to the site where you can purchase this novel.

The Courage to Do

the Courage to do

The Courage to Do

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“Courage doesn’t always roar.
Sometimes it’s a quiet voice at the end of the day saying,
I’ll do more again tomorrow.”
 – Mary Ann Radmacher
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“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”
– Winston Churchill
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“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.
The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
– Nelson Mandela
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“It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.”
– J. K. Rowling
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“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear,
do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
– Dale Carnegie
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“Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right.
These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.”
– W. Clement Stone
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“Courage is grace under pressure.”
– Ernest Hemingway
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“Loyalty and devotion lead to bravery. Bravery leads to the spirit of self-sacrifice.
The spirit of self-sacrifice creates trust in the power of love.”
– Morihei Ueshiba
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“One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.”
– Maya Angelou

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Update February 2016: The first novel in our series of seven is now published, and is a courageous story of a young teen growing up in a home filled with domestic violence, and how she manoeuvres her way through such a difficult situation.

Click here if you’d like to know more about this novel.

Click here if you’d like to be taken to the site where you can purchase this novel.

Persistance

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“Remember to follow your heart and go after your dream! There will be people in your life that will tell you that you’re wasting your time. Ignore them. There are things that will happen that will catch you on the blind side and drop you to your knees. Pull yourself together and move past them. Above all, don’t take it personally. It’s called life.

Life is full of disappointments, failures and setbacks. None of those things can permanently stop you. You have the power in you to overcome anything that life throws at you. There is nothing as powerful as a made up mind. Surround yourself with people who remind you that you matter, and support you in the ways that matter most to you. No person, situation, or circumstance can define who you are. Don’t give up, cave in, or stop believing that it’s possible…”

Marilyn Toida