I have recently found myself contemplating how my upbringing and the way I see myself today would possibly be different if I was born in the year 2000 rather than in 1993. I look at young girls now who are barely entering their teenage years and wonder how it appears that so much has changed since I was at the age of twelve, wearing clothes that my mum had bought for me and no make-up. My cousin is now at the age of twelve where wearing the latest fashion labels, hair extensions and false nails is a big part in constructing her image. Although to my family we look so alike, I have found that being seven years apart we could not be more different. I feel that living in a sexualised society plays a major role in influencing young girls to convey a certain sexual maturity and portray an image far beyond their years. Adult sexual motifs are seeping into products and clothing targeted at children so much so that it appears the gap between what is produced for children and for adults is being pulled closer and closer together. Not only is the merchandise aimed at young girls pushing the boundaries of “sexiness”, but the images of women we see in our day-to-day lives, in particular through advertising and music videos, emote a certain provocative and sexual allure that can in turn have many harmful physical and mental effects on young girls. Continue reading →
The link between eating disorders and sexual abuse has gained a great deal of attention in the past few years. Much research has been conducted in order to discover the link between eating disorders and sexually or emotionally abused women. Many females who undergo treatment of eating disorders have experienced some sort of sexual, physical or emotional abuse at some point in their lives; usually during childhood. The most prominent factor which causes eating disorders in women is sexual abuse, and unfortunately, many of the affected women do not know this because they have suppressed the memory of having been sexually abused. Continue reading →
John Blanchard stood up from the bench, straightened his Army uniform, and studied the crowd of people making their way through Grand Central Station. He looked for the girl whose heart he knew, but whose face he didn’t, the girl with the rose.
His interest in her had begun thirteen months before in a Florida library. Taking a book off the shelf he found himself intrigued, not with the words of the book, but with the notes penciled in the margin. The soft handwriting reflected a thoughtful soul and insightful mind. In the front of the book, he discovered the previous owner’s name, Miss Hollis Maynell.
With time and effort he located her address. She lived in New York City. He wrote her a letter introducing himself and inviting her to correspond. The next day he was shipped overseas for service in World War II. During the next year and one month the two grew to know each other through the mail. Each letter was a seed falling on a fertile heart. A romance was budding. Blanchard requested a photograph, but she refused. She felt that if he really cared, it wouldn’t matter what she looked like. Continue reading →
I choose Being worthy of loving myself. I choose to allow, accept and receive love into my life now. I choose to love myself. I choose to love my body from the top of my head to the tips of my toes as it is and as it changes. I choose to care for my body, my mind and my spirit with love. I choose to do loving things for myself. I choose loving thoughts about myself. I choose loving self-talk.
I feel worthy of love. I feel love for myself. I feel love for my body for all my cells, my organs, tissues, bones, muscles and tendons. I feel love coming to me from my Eternal Source of Well-Being. I allow, accept and receive that love now. I feel good being loved and loving myself now.
I AM worthy of loving myself. I AM allowing, accepting and receiving love now. I AM loving myself. I AM loving my body. I AM loving all there is in me to love. I AM thinking about myself with loving thoughts. I AM talking to myself with loving words. I AM caring for myself with loving actions. I AM grateful for the love I have for myself now. I AM loved.
I choose to accept my worth now. I choose to accept my value living on the planet at this point in time. I choose to accept the excellence in my creation. I choose to accept the virtue in being who I AM. I choose to accept the merit in each moment I AM alive.
I feel worthy now. I feel value in my Be-ing. I feel the excellence of my creation. I feel virtue in who I AM. I feel merit in each moment of my life.
I AM worthy. I AM a valued and valuable human and spiritual being. I AM created in excellence and I create excellence. I AM part of the virtue in all of creation. I AM part of the merit in all creation. I AM grateful for the feeling of worthiness. I AM loved.
It is a common thread amongst women that they don’t believe they are very attractive. This is due to the constant bombardment by everything around them, from the television, to the magazines, to the music they listen to, to the movies they go and see, to the billboards that do the advertising, to the packaging that products come in. It’s everywhere! There is a certain look that is deemed appealing, and we are constantly indoctrinated to believe that this is what men want because of the amount of times that this idea is repeated to us. The truth of the matter is far from that, of course. Men make up their own mind as to what they find attractive, and most would have a different view of what they think is attractive to what the media portrays that they think is attractive. Continue reading →
I think the biggest part of being human and making peace with our shadow and ego comes out of our need to feel that we are loved. Loved by others, and by ourselves. The search for love leads us down many winding paths. We are plopped down here with no clear destination and with no real idea of how we are supposed to get there even if we had somewhere we knew we wanted to go. The only real instinct we are given is that we seek out love. We don’t know how to do that or what that really entails at first, so we inevitably head down many wrong paths and make many mistakes before we even begin to figure out how to get a clue! If we are lucky we are surrounded by a loving family and group of people who help us make a little headway in the act of how to search…unfortunately for almost all of us, that is not the case! We get love from our family if we are fortunate enough to be born into a loving one, but more often than not, they mean well but they themselves usually came out of the same confusion we were born into. So we are forced to look outside of them to others, and even if our family is very loving, out of curiosity we look to others to see what they are doing and would recommend anyway…and we of course run into trouble…big trouble! It’s just the state of the world we live in to be born into this chaos and confusion and try to make sense of it all. Hell, that’s why we are here! We usually start off doing okay for ourselves for the most part, up until we hit puberty and then BAM! the world flips over on top of us and we have to wiggle our way out from underneath it. Continue reading →