There are a thousand things that I would like to be for you, but one of the most important is just being someone you can talk to. There are so many things I would like to do for you and so many things I would like to say and give and share. It would take me a lifetime to list all the reasons why you are so important to me. But I would like to make a special promise to be there for you too. Continue reading →
Although this blog is written in support of helping women leave violent relationships, I’m also very highly aware of how women can use lies against a partner in order to gain some kind of vengeance against him for something he may or may not have done. Violence and abuse isn’t limited to men alone. I have zero tolerance for any woman who lies about her partner or ex-partner in order to gain benefit in her own life. This is not what my organisation is about. Continue reading →
The way to help prevent domestic violence from occurring is not to remain silent when you see it happening. Many times people have heard violence going on in the homes of neighbours, but they do nothing about it when they do. Or, they hear children being abused and do nothing, or they see friends abusing their girlfriends/wives and sit by and say nothing.
If you do find yourself in this situation, the first thing you can do to prevent the violence from continuing is to speak up about it. You can either phone the police and report what you’ve heard, or you can try to record the sounds of the arguing so that you have evidence to show the police when you do contact them. Unless you can prove what you’ve heard or seen, often it’s difficult to get anything done about the situation you’re trying to help.
If you have friends who are being abusive towards their girlfriends or wives, you can say something to them about it. Making them aware that you know what is going on is the first step in helping to prevent their behaviour from continuing. Talking to the woman and offering support is another way to help as well.
Even if their story is difficult to hear and if you know the other person(s) involved, believe what you hear. Most people who come forward are telling the truth. You may be the first person they tell their experience to. Continue reading →
This is by no means an all-inclusive list of ways to prevent sexual and domestic violence in your communities. This is simply a list of possibilities to provide you with a place to start. Continue reading →